You know the feeling. You set a goal. You are genuinely motivated. This time, you tell yourself, it will be different. Then, you find yourself scrolling on your phone for an hour instead of working on that project. You agree to too many social events when you need to focus. You make a simple mistake that derails everything. It is as if you have an internal saboteur, and you cannot seem to fire them. What if I told you that self-sabotage is not a moral failing? It is not a sig

You are scrolling. Again. Another holiday picture. Another career announcement. Another person your age who seems to have it all figured out. A heavy feeling settles in your chest. Their success looks so effortless, so linear. Meanwhile, your own path feels like a constant, messy struggle full of wrong turns and dead ends. It is a feeling I know well. I was stuck in this loop for a long time. It took me a while to realise that this feeling is not a true measure of my progress

Before I became a mother, I had this friend who was struggling. Overwhelmed, exhausted, constantly losing her patience with her kid. I'd watch her snap and think, "I wouldn't do that. I know better. I studied early childhood education. I understand how a mother's stress affects a child's development." When I offered to babysit or shared what I'd learnt, I thought I was being supportive. But I wasn't, really. I was just stood there on my high horse of zero actual experience, s

Ask someone to list their flaws and they'll rattle off ten things in seconds. But ask them about their strengths? Blank stare. Awkward silence. 'Um, I don't know, I'm okay at some things I guess?' Why is it so hard to see what we're actually good at? I've been thinking about this a lot, and honestly, I think it's a combination of everything. Let me break it down. If It's Effortless, It Must Not Be Valuable This is the big one for me. We've been taught that hard work pays off